Sometimes we go into relationships without taking the time to figure out who we are, what we value, and what we want for our relationships. We might be so focused on wanting to be in a relationship (because it feels good) that we take for granted taking the above into account, or perhaps think that we will figure things out as we go along.
It’s true that we may be able to figure things out as we go along, but approaching relationships in this way may also lead to confusion, stress and doubt once you are deeply involved with someone, on an emotional (and perhaps, physical) level. It is then that you might question whether or not the relationship is right for you and the deep connection you already feel for your partner might make it harder for you to make the choice to leave the relationship.
Before getting into a committed relationship, I suggest that you take the time to get to know who you are, what you value, and what your ideal relationship looks and feels like. Doing so will give you more clarity about who you want to build a relationship with. It will also put you in a much better position to build a meaningful, enriching, and fulfilling relationship.
Where to start?
Ironically, we probably learn the most about ourselves through our relationships. So, if you have already had the experience of being in relationships (and you can refer to your relationships with your friends for this tool), use your experience to help you become more aware of:
- Who you are in relationships.
- How you like to be treated.
- What you like and dislike.
- How you treat others.
- What you want your ideal relationship(s) to look like.
For more on how to have success in dating and relationships, click on the following link to find my ‘3 Steps to Knowing What to Look for in a Potential Partner’.
You can also download my FREE Ebook that includes 5 Steps for Gaining Confidence & Direction in Your Life, Career, and Relationships.
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In support and in awe of all that you are,