Love. Unconditionally.

Recently I have been having a lot of conversations with people about what unconditional love is; how to give it, how to show it; how to let go of controlling those that we love and choosing, instead, to trust in them, and accept them fully for who they are.

Because it is when we believe that those that we love, be it our children (each child individually), or our spouse/partner, parents, siblings, and friends, are beautiful, lovable and capable; and we are able to let go of trying to get them to be what we think they should be; when we replace our agendas with real acceptance, belief, trust and unconditional love, and we give that love freely – with no strings attached – on a regular basis…those that we love will grow and flourish into the people they are meant to be.

Let go of the fear and the need to control.  Believe, trust, accept, and love.

Just as a flower requires water and sun to grow into whatever flower they are meant to be, so to, our loved ones require physical nourishment, space, trust, belief and unconditional love from us so that they can grow into who they are meant to be.

The song “You Owe Me Nothing in Return” by Alanis Morissette sums up Unconditional Love beautifully.  Read the lyrics below.  Click on the link below the lyrics to hear the song.

Share your thoughts in the comments below about what you think or believe it means to love another unconditionally.

You Owe Me Nothing In Return (lyrics)

By:  Alanis Morissette

I’ll give you countless amounts of outright
Acceptance if you want it
I will give you encouragement to choose
The path you want if you need it

You can speak of anger and doubts
Your fears and freak outs and I’ll hold it
You can share your so called shame filled accounts
Of times in your life and I won’t judge it
(And there are no strings attached to it)

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving, it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return

You can ask for space for yourself
And only yourself and I’ll grant it
You can ask for freedom as well
Or time to travel and you’ll have it

You can ask to live by yourself
Or love someone else and I’ll support it
You can ask for anything you want
Anything at all and I’ll understand it.
(And there are no strings attached to it)

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving, it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return

I bet you’re wondering when
The next payback shoe will eventually drop
I bet you’re wondering when my conditional police
Will force you to cough up

I bet you’re wondering how far
You have now danced your way back into debt
This is the only kind of love, as I understand it
That there really is

You can express your deepest of truths
Even if it means I’ll lose you and I’ll hear it
You can fall into the abyss
On your way to your bliss, I’ll empathize with

You can say that you’ll have to skip town
To chase your passion and I’ll hear it
You can even hit rock bottom
Have a mid-life crisis and I’ll hold it
(And there are no strings attached to it)

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving, it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give
You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have
I give you thanks for receiving, it’s my privilege
And you owe me nothing in return

Source: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/alanis-morissette-lyrics/you-owe-me-nothing-in-return-lyrics.html

You can hear the song here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbl2mSWn5kg

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3 Responses

  1. Dear Jenny, I cried reading your post and listening to the lyrics.
    I am so proud of you.You inspire me to be a better person.
    With all my love.
    Mom

  2. Thank you Keef. I will check out your articles.

  3. keef feeley

    Jenny,
    Anyone who puts Alanis Morisette lyrics on her website impresses me!
    I wont bore you with my background (I’m old and there’s lots) but if you are interested in contacting me after seeing these pages please don’t hesitate.
    “Preparing Our Children To Succeed In The 21st Century”- http://www.successfeelosophy.com/key-issues/parenting
    Understanding and Improving Relationships – http://www.successfeelosophy.com/key-issues/relationships

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