Are you having trouble committing to things, even things you really want to have and be committed to in your life?
If so, the reason you might be struggling is because you are likely making an effort to meet one of your core needs and committing feels like a threat to that.
Our Five Psychological Needs
In his book, Choice Theory, William Glasser outlines 5 psychological needs.
In a nutshell, we make choices, consciously and subconsciously, based on our level of need in these 5 areas:
1️⃣ Love & Belonging
Your strong need for Freedom
I have found that the people who have the most difficult time committing also have a high need for FREEDOM.
Sometimes any sort of commitment feels like a threat to having that freedom.
Steps you can take to help you commit to the things you want to be committing to in your life
So, what can you do when you find this is the reason you are struggling with commitment?
First, acknowledge and accept that this is a valid need of yours.
Next, give yourself permission to fulfill this need.
Then, carve out regular ‘Freedom time’ for yourself by creating a schedule or plan that includes ‘freedom time’ for you (and enjoy it!) This way you get things done, follow through on your goals, get the freedom you require, and not feel threatened.
Interesed in learning more so that you can be more productive, build better relationships, and create success and fulfillment in your career?
I have a number of other ideas to guide you through this. If you’re interested in hearing more, reach out. I’d love to help.
In support and admiration,
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