In my coaching programs with my clients, I work on helping my clients strengthen the following three areas that I believe are essential for being successful at life, love, and work: self-confidence, taking control of your life, and effective communication skills.
As part of our discussion on how to build real self-confidence I highlight what it means to be confident. Often I find that others believe that being confident means that one knows how to do a certain thing, or everything. This, however, is not the definition of self-confidence.
What does it mean to be confident, then?
The Merriam-Webster dictionary states the following as the first two definitions of ‘Confidence’:
1 a : a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances <had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed> <met the risk with brash confidence>b : faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way <have confidence in a leader>
2 : the quality or state of being certain : certitude <they had every confidence of success>
What can we learn from these two definitions on the word ‘confidence’?
Note that when defining confidence, the word ‘knowing how to’ is not used in any of these definitions. Instead, the words that are used are: “a feeling, faith, belief, or state of being.”
Confidence does not mean that you know how to do something. Rather, to be confident means to believe that you can or are capable of doing that thing.
This being the real definition for self-confidence can help us to better understand how to build real-self confidence. In order to feel confident in yourself and in what you do, or in what you are about to do, shift your focus from putting pressure on yourself to know exactly how to do something, and instead focus on your unique qualities, gifts, and strengths that will help you accomplish what it is you want to accomplish.
By shifting your focus back to your qualities, gifts, and strengths you will have the confidence, the belief in yourself that you require, to try new things and tackle projects you have never done before.
In support, admiration, and in awe of all that you are and all that you are capable of,
Learn more about how to build your self-confidence so that you can succeed in life, love, and work, here.