The best thing you can do for yourself – your life, your career and your relationships – is to be yourself. That is your guaranteed path to your unique success in everything that you do.
Everything you require to succeed is already inside of you.
When you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, or very stuck in moving forward in your life, your career, or in dating and your relationships, there is a good chance you are feeling this way because you are either comparing yourself to others (and their success) or you are fighting with yourself about who you think you should be. I call this approach (of comparing ourselves to others or who we think we should be instead) an Outside-In Approach. It is an approach we often use when we are making decisions about ourselves, our future, and our relationships. We do this when we look for the answers for what is right for us by looking to others to see what choices they made for themselves. We take an Outside-In Approach when we ask others what it is that they think we should do, or look to what already exists and see where we fit in to these existing options.
When we take this Outside-In Approach we are left on shaky ground. We take the risk of doubting and questioning ourselves or feeling unhappy or unsure about the choices we make. Why? Because by skipping the step of getting to know and of going to you first, you take the risk of making choices that are inauthentic to who you are.
Instead, I recommend taking, what I call, an Inside-Out Approach. An Inside-Out Approach means that you go to yourself first. You get to know who you are, how you learn and understand things, how you approach situations in your life, and know what your needs are. This information will help you make the best choices for you. You will stop doubting yourself. Instead you will make choices about your life, your career, and your relationships with clarity, confidence and ease.
If you want to stop doubting yourself and the choices that you make, get to know yourself. Trust that you will make the right choices for yourself, your career, and your relationships by being you. Remember, noone else but you can be you and fulfill your particular purpose in your particular way. You benefit your loved ones, your work, and the world around you by being you, and by living, loving, and working in line with who you are.
So, be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.
In support, admiration, and in awe of all that you are,