Early on in her coaching program with me, my client asked me if I had any tips to help her reach her long-term goals, which included incorporating lifestyle commitments that were important to her into her daily and weekly routine. She was just not able to make these lifestyle commitments stick.
This client of mine is not alone. How many times have you decided for yourself that you wanted to make a change in the way you eat, or make a commitment to do something every day that you know makes you feel good, but no matter how much you know it is good for you, you still have trouble following through?
Just as I mentioned to my client, the problem is not that you are not being sincere, nor is it indicative of your level of commitment. The problem might simply be the process you are taking to get there.
What I noticed about my client, for example, was that she sincerely wanted to incorporate these lifestyle changes into her life. The problem she was experiencing in not being able to successfully incorporate her desired lifestyle changes was due to her approach. She stated the following when describing to me what she was currently doing: “Right now it happens when it happens, but it not a steady part of my schedule and I do not know how I can add it.”
I told my client that it seemed to me that she was not taking control of her time and that she was not being super clear to herself about what she wanted. Instead, it seemed to me that she was letting things “happen when they happen” as if those things she wanted to do had control over her (instead of the other way around.)
I then offered her the following steps to take to help her:
- Gain Control, and
- Get Super Clear
so that she can successfully incorporate the lifestyle changes she desired and reach her long-term goals. These are the steps I suggest you take if you, too, are having the same problem she had.
[Click here to read more about why it is important for you to express your wants and needs clearly and how it helps you get what you want in your life, career, and relationships.]
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In support and admiration,